I've just found out my boyfriend has lied to me...?

He is still friends with his ex and whilst he hasn't cheated on me, he told me today that she is a dominatrix and he was a submissive, thats how they met.

I don't know how I feel about this - I love him but I feel very strange about this. Am I wrong for wanting him to cut his friendship with her? She's very manipulative and keeps making him feel guilty to be friends with her and even asks him to remind her about physio apppointments and other things. She says he is her only friend.

The only reason he told me about it was because HER ex emailed me and told me and I asked him about it.

This feels like a soap opera and not my life!

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you re not wrong in expecting him to stop having contact;

at the same time guess he s in a helpless position and is being emotionally blackmailed. there s no reason to doubt his loyalty or committment to you, as of now atleast.

she seems to be a person who s takin advantage of him. so long as it remains to reminding her of her appointments there s no necessity to make a big deal out of it; but if you can build enuf courage into your guy to not get stamped over, that s really the best option you ve!

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If you are paranoid and jealous and insecure, then dump him...
If it sounds too weird, get out. If you like that sort of thing, stay with him. If he'd lie to you once, he'll lie to you again.
let them be friends but reminding about appts and things like that! umm than what is the point of them not together? U should not have to be second best and sounds like u are so find someone else that will treat u the way u want and need to be treated.
just paly it cool even im frns wth my ex....u should trust ur bf....he broke up wth her rite??so wats bieng scared about??this is every1....
If you really like this guy, it's time for you to take the dominant stance in this relationship. Tell him that you won't tolerate his seeing her or talking to her any more and that he must decide which of you is more importany to him. He'll find the new domineering you a lot more interesting and if it's something you're not scared of trying, you just might enjoy being the boss in your relationship.
I dont know what to say about it, but if he is still talking to her, and she gives him something that you dont (kinkyness) then I would rethink..is he cheating. Just because a guy says "honey i sware Im not cheating" doesnt mean he is telling the truth.

If being friends with the ex upsets you so much, he should respect that and leave her to her self.
dump him...theres no reason to stay with someone you dont trust. love is not worth a thing if there's no trust. do yourself a favor and love yourself first and foremost. if something is not setting right with you then move on, follow your gut. wake up and move on; you dont need drama in your life.
i think ex's should stay in the past. because there's a reason why they are ur ex
sounds like a soap too! in a way i feel were your coming from, if they talk alll the time! but see i talk to my ex every now and then and my gf understands the fact that i love her, and just because i dated this girl in the past, it doesnt mean that im not friends with her now, or that i want her again. so you have to evaluate your trust in him, and monitor the situation tightly!
all unattached boys are dual and what is cheating has he made any commitments to you . has he vowed to marry you. have you.
then..go and ask him bout the whole story..find the real situation.. weather they're just meeting as friends or something else...

in a relationship you just need to trust your partner...

love is built with care and trust..

if you're prejudice to him, then ask him to explain the matter.. persue him to tell the truth...
i understand i have been through three lieng relationships in less than 6 months ....so i juss gave up..im taken a break for a while...but...i would h\advise u to trust him...it comes along way.....if he loves you he wouldnt b hurting you nor would he ie to you.....juss ask yourself...is it love??? or juss u cant see urself without him!!! and dont always believe wat the next man says because they are either jealous or ant what u have u never really knw who actually looking out for u...remember that