Break up or No? what would YOU do? advicee plz!!?

so I haven鈥檛 really told anyone this because I don鈥檛 like to get people involved but I thought what the heck, I know its long but I really need advice so please read

so my dilemma is that before I met my current boyfriend, I used to be a big party girl, although I have never hooked up with anyone outside of a relationship but I used to hang out with my 5 best gals and we used to have a blast. We used to travel together, go everywhere together, we would always dress to impress, and it was the good life. but deep inside I always wanted to long term relationship commitment because although I had boyfriend it would only last about 4 months and I really wanted to settle down so finally I met a guy and we hit it off immediately and at first it was awesome cause I would still hang out with my girls but have my boyfriend there so it was good but as time passed he changed too. he stop going out, all we would do is stay home and watch football and at first it was okay because I would still see my friends from time to time but then he started to bash on my friends saying they are easy and that they go out too much and If I go out like I used to this relationship wouldn鈥檛 work. So little by little I stopped hanging out with my friends, and although I still tried to keep in touch by aim or the phone, that too was disappearing. so although I always felt bad about this, not until recently which I had to beg my guy to go with me to one of my friend鈥檚 birthday parties, I got to see all my old friends and the life I used to have, and I felt as if imp missing out on life. Although we were all hanging out I didn鈥檛 feel as I belonged anymore and it made me very aware that this just wasn鈥檛 fair. I know he loves me, I know he cares but in the back on my mind I know it鈥檚 not fair for me to have to abandon my life to be with him, I feel as if our relationship is only good if we go by what he says. He hasn鈥檛 stop hanging out with his friends, and I'm sure when he鈥檚 friends come back from FSU he is going to want to party with them. And it gets me very upset. and it sucks because as much as I want to let it go I鈥檓 scared to be losing him too since he鈥檚 been there for me, has helped me out, has been an amazing boyfriend overall except for when his jealous, and I鈥檓 scared to never find that again, last night I broke up with him because he insulted me calling me a slut, a liar, because I told him I was going to go out with my parents and he didn鈥檛 believe me. So I did it and sitting in the opera I rushed to the bathroom to call him. I really don鈥檛 know what to do. I鈥檓 scared of feeling lonely and missing this and it being too late to turn back time, I know he treats me extremely bad sometimes but then some other times he鈥檚 incredible, I know his entire family they are always talking about wedding wedding grandchildren all of this, yet as much as I care about him, I鈥檓 very frustrated with myself for losing myself in the process of making him happy. And I can鈥檛 see myself being happy and living to his expectations. Am I wrong for thinking this? Should I appreciate him more? sometimes he makes me the happiest person but then sometimes I regret everything鈥 want to move to NY, travel, experience so much and he really wants to settle down and I鈥檓 torn because I want both. gkjdkfjdfkd please help, I can鈥檛 stop thinking about this and I need to know what the outside party thinks.

Break up or No? what would YOU do? advicee plz!!?sheet music

well, first of all, as hard as it may be, i would get rid of him. it sounds like every abusive relationship i've ever heard about. i'm sure he's real sweet sometimes, but his jealousy sounds completely unwarranted and inappropriate. there's no reason to put up with that and to distance yourself from your friends because of it. if he really cared anything about you he wouldn't have such a problem with you hanging out with your friends. and also, those are your friends who've been there for you probably a lot longer than he has. the more i think about your situation, the less i like this guy of yours. he sounds like a meathead and however good it is between you two, it doesn't sound worth it to let him control you. i can't stand that trait in people. my girlfriend and i are comletely equal and there are no issues of control or manipulation because we are in love with each other and mature enough to respect what the other one does. this guy of yours sounds like a little boy and my best advice to you would be to get rid of him and move on. go hang out with your friends, party and have a good time. and eventually you'll find a real man who will love and respect you and be comfortable enough with himself and with the relationship that he won't freak out any time you want to do something with your friends. you sound like a good girl, i'm sure you can find a good guy out there.

good luck and be happy,

T

Break up or No? what would YOU do? advicee plz!!?state theatre opera theater

whats your heart say, and could you give up your friends for him, if he acts that way i wouldnt see it as love, its a convience for him, so what i would do if i were in your shoes is talk to him, tell him how you feel, and he'll sasy that he wil lchange, but watch him, see if he actualy does, if he doesnt, he's not good enough for you.
well i think that u should break it off and be with someone who will let u go out with ur friends and stop clinging on to u so much and let u be ur won self and he be his own self and yal just meet back up at home see me i dont have that problem cause i let the girl that i was with go cause i was in the same perdicament that u r in now just cut him loose and find someon ethat will be there when u need him and who lets u do what u wanna do
I think that you should follow your own heart because it is you that will be affected by your choice. I feel that you should evaluate your relationship and what makes you happy. You cannot stay with someone if it makes you unhappy. The only expectations you should live too are your own and if he's jealous like that then you should consider the fact that he may become dangerous and should consider breaking up with him.
hey this is stephanie.B and i read your email and do i think you should appreciate you more no! i think he needs to appreciate you more and quit playing games. tell him to grow up and that you and him both need to comprimise. about all things. and i also think that if you want somthing diffrent from what he wants then he would back you up if he loved you like he says he does. see ya later
you have a good reason for asking for advice but i think you are smart enough to know this relationship is killing your spirit.never be stuck with some one for fear of being lonely.being alone doesn't always mean being lonely.some relationships can help us grow while some stifle that growth.you are with the wrong man and you know it so make arrangements as soon as possible to change your situation.you may end up with out a steady mate for a while but at least you know the kind of man you need to have in your life,one that helps you celebrate who you are and doesn't need to change you or control you.If you can't find that man then at least you will still be flower in bloom and not a wilted bud of the flower you are.
wow hun, sounds like you're pretty torn. It also sounds like you are a very nice person and don't deserve to be treated the way you are. Meaning that if he really loved you he 1. wouldn't insult you 2. He wouldn't put down your friends no matter how they are or act. 3. He would want you to be happy and it sounds like to me that you staying in one spot isn't for you. Not right now at least. I think you should leave him and be yourself not what someone else wants you to be. Life is way too short to be living in regret if you don't have to. I think you should go enjoy life to its fullest and be as happy as you can and when that right guy comes along, he will treat you good ALL the time not just some of the time. Good luck and stay happy. :)
He sounds jealous and insecure. What I would suggest is that you have a talk with him about the situation. Tell him you are with him because you want to be and you love him. Be flirtatious show him that he is your world and that should help with the insecurity. He needs to know that you want to have a relationship with your friends, as well, and there should not be any jealousy, he should trust you, for if there is no trust it is not love but the opposite. You guys aren't married so you have the option to leave the relationship if things don't change, and at some point (not now) you can let him know that. Good luck!
You know what most of life becomes a routine and we change to adapt to those routines. Thats basically what happened in your case. Thing is I think you got your priorities mixed up. You couldn't decide between your past life and your now life and which one you wanted more. You need to look at yourself, decide where you want to go in life and pick the path that best suits you getting there.
Use your first mind--no one can live for you and no one wants to give you the wrong answer--your boyfriend is being somewhat selfish --although you love him and you don't want to hurt him --think about it --if he were to take you to some places and have a better attitude toward life --you wouldn't be asking these questions-eventually someone's feeling is going to be hurt and you are indead going to get tired of all the criticism and low rating --who wants to sit in the house and listen to someone gripe and put other people that you care about down you are still young but old age sneaks up on you very fast--don't wait until this happens and then say "I Should have"
There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. Each person in the relationship have different personalities, likes and dislikes. No it is not fair that he gets to keep his life and you have to leave yours behind. Two people in relations have to accept each other and make small sacrifices. You were right to break up with him. I know you are starving for the perfect relationship, go out there and get. never give up yourself. You will only find misery by lliving by anothers rules.